How to change your mindset | Tips

July 28, 2017

 

“The secret to “having it all” is believing you already do.” – Anonymous

Last Monday I shared some tips I’ve picked up about staying positive and I realized that your mindset is a big part of your success. Naturally, I felt the urge to reward this topic its own post. Your mind is the source of all power within your body. Any action you complete is your decision. By choosing the scary and challenging things, we test our capability and exceed beyond our own expectations. We are able to do this because of our current mindset.

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Staying Positive | Tips

July 24, 2017

 

“Show respect even to people who don’t deserve it; not as a reflection of their character, but as a reflection of yours.” – Dave Willis 

Maintaining a positive attitude can be so rewarding; but like any good thing, it takes time and practice. Thinking positively will only do great things for you; however simply telling you that isn’t showing you the benefits and possibilities you could encounter. This may sound so cliche, but I promise you, with each joyful thought comes a brighter rainbow.

I like to call it ‘the boomerang effect’ or the common practice, the Law of Attraction. Essentially, both of these methods is the idea that whatever you send out in the world will find its way back to you. So if you send out nothing but positive energy, that same energy will repay in the area where it is most needed. Most people like to use the Law of Attraction to gain things like a new car, home, boyfriend/girlfriend, a significant amount of money, etc., but I like to use for my mental state, assuring that my mood and surroundings are always the way I want them to be. Obviously, this new state of mind isn’t going to prevent any bad experience in your lifetime, but it might just help you find the courage to face these things head on.

Be the change you want to see in the world

Simply being aware of every thought, every word you are expressing during your day will be very effective for your mood and will help you realize what negative thoughts you tend to repeat to yourself and others. Like we discussed earlier, any energy you send out will find its way back to you, good or bad. That is why it is so important to actually try the practice of positive thinking because it will totally change your mindset and reward you.

If you want to attract certain people in your life, then behave in the manner that you would like the people around you to; only then you will draw those like-minded people into your life and increase your own positivity.

Complete the relaxing things

Sometimes, we just totally need those comforting things that instantly make us feel better. Honestly? Being stressed and STILL trying to find positive things in your life is hard work. Once you get the hang of it, it won’t be an extra chore on your to-do list and will totally reward you. Just let go and r e l a x – everything will still be there when you come back, so no need to worry about it. You need this time to recharge your inspiration and overall sanity.

Treat yourself to a spa day. Know that these breaks will give your mind a break to zoom out and look at everything from a different perspective. Only then will you be able to complete your work successfully and happily. Take a well-deserved breather.

Replace the bad with the good

To change a bad habit is to replace it with a good one. Anytime you find yourself believing you can’t do something, reverse your thoughts into saying you can. For the longest time, I fought with this mentality that I couldn’t do it, that I was too scared and inexperienced to try. Now I realize that life is literally too short to be filled with negativity and fear.

We must focus on the impossible and make it possible. We must act fiercely in all our actions. To do this, we have to change our mindset. To change your mindset, observe your habits and how they affect your actions. Realize what you need to do to discover that you are a positive and courageous person.

Find positive inspiration

So, you might be wondering, “Devynne, how do I possibly change my habits to improve my mindset?” Well, I cannot stress how important inspiration is for this procedure. It’s basically intelligence getting excited about new ideas and possibilities. I love that positive feeling of confidence that comes with inspiration.

As I mentioned in my post, How to successfully plan & keep long-term goals inspiration is why so many people are successful and happy with their success. They know where to look for inspiration to keep their creativity flowing. New possibilities are formed and a sense of purpose is found.

With that purpose, you discover tranquility and a spunky comfort. It can be a change of scenery, a motivating playlist full of your favorite songs, a new book, or even just scrolling through a lifestyle blog overflowing of incredible thoughts. Find your source and make it accessible for you so that the full experience can take effect.

Catch a few Zzz’s

Sleep is so important for our well-being. It’s up there with nutritious food and water – without it, we all are basically zombies searching for a purpose in life. Lack of sleep is one of the causes of headaches and bad moods; two things that can easily cause stress in the simplest of tasks and negativity. In order to feel your best and express that by being your full, productive self, make sure you are getting 8-9 hours of sleep.

Of course, we all have our ups and downs in life, so don’t feel guilty when you let one little negative thought slip you by. Like all good things, this practice will take time, so enjoy the process! This is a life changing experiment that can truly impact your mindset and outlook on everything. Stay strong and remember that we all have that positive light inside of us.

xx – Devynne

Thoughts on ‘The Hate U Give’

July 21, 2017

 

“At an early age I learned that people make mistakes, and you have to decide if their mistakes are bigger than your love for them.”
― Angie Thomas

Title: The Hate U Give

Author: Angie Thomas

Genre: Teen & Young Adult Emotions & Feelings Fiction

Date of publication: February 28, 2017

Page Count: 444

Rating: 5/5 stars

 

This book is everything I expected it to be and more. I truly believe Angie Thomas properly portrays an issue that everyone is aware of, but is something no one digs behind-the-scenes to observe all the action takes place.

The Hate U Give focuses on just that. This novel opens with main protagonist Starr and her everyday life – only it becomes more complex as she is a witness to her best friend’s, Khalil, unruly death, caused by a police officer. During this hectic journey for peaceful justice, Starr meets some victims along the way who shared the same potential as Khalil. This spirals into particular realizations that cause Starr to reevaluate some of her judgments towards Khalil, and other individuals caught up in the drama of Garden Heights. Not only does Starr realize potential issues in the world around her, but she discovers her own faults and strives to fix them.

This review does contain spoilers, so read at your own risk!

This book was so incredibly realistic; not only did Starr battle with the murder of one of her best friends, but she continues to struggle with the people around her, making this book more and more relatable. The Hate U Give demonstrates how friends that once were like-minded, grow apart over the years and end up complete opposites. This being the sudden close-minded expression of another one of Starr’s best friends. Of course, this book mainly focuses on the negligence of society, but seeing it within Starr’s friend circle made her problems more effective, causing stress in an area where Starr needed tranquility.

Constantly throughout the book, Starr struggles with herself as “Garden Heights Starr” and “Williamson Starr” (two very different versions of herself which she created) frequently switching back and forth between them. As a result of this, she loses herself along the way, not realizing the correct way to express her feelings during the trial of the officer who shot Khalil. Eventually, she finds herself in a new light, conquering her fear and facing the trials. Khalil gave her courage and lived on within Starr, igniting the fire in her bones.

Khalil’s death also had an effect on different individuals worldwide; it meant something to each person. The injustice we face in our world today is people not being respected and are diminished because of their race or any other pointless aspect to an equal human being. This is why The Hate U give broke ground with its release; it discussed a difficult topic that needs attention.

The Hate U Give made me realize how blinded some of us are by accusations and hate. Because of this, we lose sight of humanity in these victims of police officer crimes in our real life. Obviously, this isn’t the case for everyone, but I found it to be true in my own life and decided to change my outlook on certain situations. I also contribute an expression of high praise to the realistic features in The Hate U Give, because of how Angie Thomas so brilliantly painted the practical side of riots and protests. I, myself, have never attended a protest; however, I did quite enjoy the fact that anger and sadness were expressed throughout each and every protester.

Another lovely aspect of this book that I most enjoyed was the amazing characters that supported Starr throughout her obstacles. I actually loved every character in this book (besides her close-minded friend, Hailey… she was horrific). Each character experienced some sort of character development; characters who faced difficulties in different areas of their life expanded into their true potential with honesty and patience, which are two virtues we need more of in our world today.

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Overall, The Hate U Give is a groundbreaking novel that fearlessly attacks an extremely common issue in our society today. I would definitely recommend this to anyone who is willing to listen and understand the struggles many innocent individuals face. This book changed so many of my thoughts and I hope if you read it, it will change yours too in some positive way.

xx – Devynne

The Silent Art of Life

July 17, 2017 – Journal

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Life sometimes whispers a sweet promise in the ear of  certain victims who run for forever safety

They run instead of acting bravely 

Never wondering how long forever will be

And of all the strengths to listen to

The victim chooses to listen to the root of all failures

Hoping to be carefree

 

New barriers are then set up to eventually limit our potential

The very same ones that destroy our credential of life and the way we live it

Then the time comes to face the facts

The certain reality check we encounter, the certain ringing in our head

Slowly, but surely we give in

Realizing the one chance we had is lost

But instead of regretting and wishing

We should learn and accept the future

For the future of living is in the now and not the never

 

Life is a beautiful thing

Its beauty exceeds stars, the moon, and every galaxy

Life is an endless journey

Leaving humans and animals to leap in harmony

But only if we choose that path

Will we find forever tranquility

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This piece of writing is dedicated to our life as we know it and all of its risks and challenges. I encourage you to take hope from this as it is written for those times when we don’t feel so strong – when we don’t feel brave to continue on into our dreams. Listen to your heart and that passion will soon drive you into success.

Thanks so much for reading and caring.

xx – Devynne

How to successfully plan & keep long-term goals | Tips

July 14, 2017

 

“A goal without a plan is just a wish.” – Unknown 

Planning may appear a tedious task to some, or the origin of tranquility to others. Whatever your views are on planning, there is no denying that having a specific goal set provides the spark of different motives or ideas. An intention is a simple art that can be a personalized guide for your life. These intentions ignite and drive passion, which why we need to focus on the more long-term aspect of them. This creates the correct expression of our drive; we need some sort of an idea to eventually develop and advance beyond them.

Goals should be big – ones that shoot past the moon and the stars. It doesn’t matter if you “bite more off than you can chew”, actually trying and putting yourself out there will only benefit you with lessons and experiences.

Ask questions

Get ready to search into the depths of your soul for this one. Ask yourself meaningful questions that will cause you to have some serious idea breakthroughs about certain goals you want to set and accomplish. Questions like “What gift/passion do I want to present to the world?” or “What skills do I want to have obtained by my 75th birthday?” are great starters. When you have a moment, just write down any ideas that may have occurred to you, or think up new ones and ask yourself questions that relate to your ideas.

Document the process! Journaling will be your best friend in this situation. Obviously, long-term goals require some thought and life-provoking questions and journaling can assist you in doing just that.

Journal the process

Speaking of journaling, actually writing your goals on a physical piece of paper can help them become more realistic and ideal for the future and/or present. Seeing helps us to believe; things like vision boards or affirmations in your journal can encourage a successful journey towards your goals.

Once you decide on checkpoints to base your milestones around (more about this down below) you can journal in some updates or realizations that you’ve encountered since the last deadline. This will help you see growth in areas that aren’t always seen by the naked eye.

Find inspiration

The world is your oyster – use it. Seriously, find what gets your brain flowing and use it to fuel the fire inside. Personally, whenever I need full on inspiration for my goals, I go on YouTube and watch productive vlogs to get my day going. I’m not even kidding; something about watching other people complete their day’s work in an aesthetic manner makes me want to be productive.

Then, I create long-term goals for myself. Goals like meal-prepping or working on this blog every day are things that I know are important to me and that I need to work on and find inspiration for. Once I discover my inspiration, I get to work on my goals. One of my go-to methods for this is focusing on little habits I can improve in my daily life to achieve these goals. Find what works for you and use it to invest some time into your own goals.

Soak up knowledge

Once you’ve figured out the goals you want to accomplish in the far or near future, gaining any type of knowledge on that subject is most ideal. Any knowledge gained towards your goal will prepare you for the journey and end result. This will also ease your mind as you approach certain bumps in the road since you will have the knowledge to move far and beyond those difficulties.

Knowledge is the key to long-term success. For example, let’s say I have this goal of running 2 miles under twelve minutes and I want to achieve that in three months. I would begin running every morning, but also research tips on the best ways to accomplish this.

If you would happen to have some experience in the field you are setting your goals in, do not be afraid to read some “tips for beginners” articles. It may obtain the information you are already aware of, but some posts may also surprise you with their professional thoroughness.

Set check-ups

Finally, the best thing to do when you have a project you want to complete is to set check-ups or, like I discussed earlier, milestones. Treat this process like a homework assignment for a class; holding yourself accountable by setting up checkpoints throughout your journey can and will be effective. Once you feel like you have to finish a project by a certain time (or a certain piece done by a certain date) you will actually feel motivated to finish it within that amount of time.

I’ve found that scheduling what time/date I want to have a specific project finished by motivates me to schedule some time aside to work on it. Google Calendar will be your best friend if you love to schedule everything this way. I literally use it for everything. My entire schedule consists of meal/week prepping, time to work on my blog, photography shoots, my workouts, meditations, etc.

Of course, everything changes when the school year begins, but as of now, my schedule is everything I want it to be. The journey towards your goals can be beautiful as long as you make it fun and productive for yourself.

Obviously, it is super amazing to plan and prepare for your goals, but finding inspiration to hold a balanced schedule throughout can be a bit difficult. Always focus on ways to improve your habits and take it one step at a time.

Rome wasn’t built in a day and no one expects you to become this incredibly productive human being in one day. Walk casually through the process and enjoy life. That’s what goals are all about, right?

xx – Devynne

How to have a Spa Day | Tips

July 10, 2017

 

“Your calm mind is the ultimate weapon against your challenges. So relax.”  – Bryant McGill 

The simple act of relaxation is just as important as the act of persistence within the work life. To maintain our sanity, we must learn to fully de-stress for incoming ideas. That is why having a spa day, rest day, cheat day – or whatever name you prefer – can enhance your ability to get things done. Obviously, we all do not have the luxury of visiting a local spa or access to a full day of relaxation. However, if you’re pressed for time or don’t have the chance to be a bit more flexible, these steps can be slowly applied to your daily routine to increase sanity for your inner workaholic.

Breathe

Too frequently we get tangled in the web of the terrifying worries of “what-ifs” in our hectic lives. How many times are you actually stepping back and listening instead of asking? During your spa day (or few minutes of tranquility), you should completely remove yourself from the projects you need to finish. Remove your mind from that source of worry and stress.

Meditation is a fantastic way to practice this ritual and kick off your self-care day/moment – you are able to shut out every worry that your brain has been feeding to you. Relax and understand that no matter what, you will find that the solution was always right in front of you.

Focus on what you love

Obviously, a day full of peace and mindfulness is going to be filled only with things you most enjoy (a Harry Potter marathon, planning your week, binge watching Vampire Diaries, etc.). But do you truly take your mind off of the stress originators? Remember that focusing on something else for a while isn’t a form of procrastination (unless you cut out all work time – THEN it becomes a problem), it is just the practice of contentment. Actually allowing those unproductive moments can cycle into being a moment of one of your best ideas.

If you are naturally a “precrastinator” and cannot fathom the thought of taking a break during work hours, brainstorm ideas for whatever it is you are working towards so that it doesn’t feel exactly like a form of laziness. Calmly approach your project with different forms of action. This will allow you to realize what steps you need to take towards your goals in order to put your mind at ease. And always remember, breaks are not the enemy. Over-working your body mentally and physically is.

Pamper and practice a little TLC

Okay, so we’ve discussed taking your mind completely off the origin of stress, but how about some tender loving care? Self-care is the most important habit an individual can practice. Without it, we wouldn’t really find purpose or love. So, do what you most enjoy doing. Blast some sick beats and throw on a charcoal face mask. Take a nice long bath with candles and read that book you’ve been waiting to read. This is YOUR time to shine.

Whatever your little heart has been desiring, do it. Whether it’s trying out a new restaurant or going shopping with your girlfriends, just do it! Just remember to be mindful about what you truly need for your break. Aka, treat yo self wisely.

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To have an absolutely successful relaxation day/moment, you MUST remember that any outside noise or annoyance needs to be muted for the time being. Like, seriously. You can’t call it “relaxation” if you keep taking those calls from work, now can you? Please consider at least one of these tips. Relaxation time is most important to our well-being and will help you become more successful in all areas of your life.

xx – Devynne